Often, we inadvertently insult people in our conversation. This may have happened to you: a friend makes a comment that shows they don’t see you as you see yourself. Maybe they don’t think you’re quite as intelligent as you do. Or, maybe they think you’re not capable, or weak, or older than you think you look.
Open up or Close Down
You can open people up or close them down with your conversation. In a Chinese Treasure called Thunder in the Sky, writerThomas Cleary translates The Master of the Demon Valley. He writes:
“Thus to talk of longevity, happiness, wealth, status, honor, fame, love, fondness, material gain, success, joy or desire is yang; this is called the beginning. And to talk of death, grief, trouble, poverty, disgrace, rejection, loss, disappointment, injury, punishment, execution, or penalty is yin; this is called the end.”
The mouth is the door of the mind;
Your mouth is the doorway to other’s minds. Hook their attention and control their minds.The mind is the host of the spirit. Opening means speech. Closing means silence. What you say and don’t say–matters.
Today and for the next week, be aware of what you’re talking about and what you’re not saying. Ask yourself, am I beginning to open something or am I closing and ending something? What am I speaking about? What is it leading to?
The 4th way is a study which promotes the idea that we live in a world which is actually asleep. In an analogous way to actual sleep and waking up, there is a higher state of consciousness than our normal being. In this higher state everyone else seems to be asleep.
Almost Everyone Believes They Are Awake
People don’t remember who they really are. We go through life thinking we’re aware, conscious and awake to at least most of what is happening through us and to us. But is this the case.?
The First Step.
As in AA–Alcoholics Anonnomous–the first step is to admit you’ve been lying to yourself. One admits they are an alcoholic. To wake up to the fact we are asleep we need to admit we’re sleeping. The following exercise comes from Vernon Howard:
Every day we walk through many doorways. We go to the bathroom, enter the kitchen, leave the house, go to work and so on. Each time we have to go through a doorway. Make up your mind right now, today, whenever you go through a doorway you will stop and take notice. Make a note of it in your mind. When you do this exercise, you will notice something very strange. At some point you will walk through a doorway and not notice. . . . Notice that also.
This is the beginning development of your power to remember yourself.
This exercise comes from a little tract that shows you the power you hold. Get it now:
When you’re uptight and stressed by life, the key to internal integration and a balanced relationship with the world lies within our feelings and sensations. We can heal. We can nurture ourselves.
Touch your feelings
Expand the flowing rhythms that feelings bring to you. These are linked to the vitality of the Universe itself. Through relaxation we can awaken our feeling. Through subtle relaxation we awaken feelings which then expand and accumulate.
Slowly Become Aware
There are deep feelings within you. They interpenetrate fields of energy inside your body and outside. The energy contained in these fields sustain and nurture us. They recycle sensations that are rich and powerful. With relaxation our minds become clear and we discover what it means to be balanced.
Sit as relaxed and still as possible.
Slowly let yourself become aware of any sensations or feeling-tones that arises. At the beginning, remind yourself to follow whatever happens . . . whatever sensation arises — may it be light or even delicate.
Attune your inner ear.
Trust your experience and open yourself to it. Do this in whatever way you do, without method or formulation. Whenever you feel a sensation or feeling-tone, allow it to continue as long as possible. Continue for fifteen to thirty minutes.
This is Kum Nye relaxation. Stimulating feeling and expanding is the basic activity. In this way you will learn to increase enjoyment and appreciation of every aspect of living. Even the most minute sensation can be increased, accumulated and expanded until it flows throughout your body to the surrounding world.
One of the aids to healing which toning provides is the cleansing of the field. Another is to invite the subconscious mind to cooperate with ideas held in the rational mind and to bring about a condition of wholeness–body, mind and soul for the person.
Close Your Eyes
It is natural for all living things to move. The tides move, sape rises and falls in tress, plants move. It is unnatural for the body to be held in a rigid position. So let your body sway slightly to get the feelings of the rhythm of life, life’s pulsation, your breating. Finally, feel the oneness of all life throbbing in all of nature.
Feel the Magical Process.
Everything is alive within and around you. Relax the jaw so that the teeth are slightly parted. Let your body speak. Let sound come up from it, not down upon it from your mind.
Let Your Body Groan
Let it sigh a deep audible sigh. This is the feeling of release–an emptying out which is a resting. Encourage your body to be vocal. Start with low groans.
And let your body groan. You may think you have nothing to grown about but you will be surprised. All the hurts, physical and emotional, which you have received are buried in your subconscious memory.
Groaning Offers Relief.
And a door is opened so the repressed feelings of you entire life flow out of you. This may come out in protests like “I’m tired of everything!” or “I can’t take it anymore!” Go with it. Go deeper. Follow the sound. Release!
Allow Yourself to Enjoy
The sensations around you–the sensations are the feeling of new aliveness. This is the way to More Life.
This exercise comes from TONING, The Creative Power of the Voice by Laurel Elizabeth Keyes. Click on the icon below to buy it from Amazon. It’s a wonderful book which will open you and you’ll feel more alive.